Alexa talks about modeling, her non-profit, and self love

This gorgeous gal is Alexa Phelece. I met Alexa briefly at a self love event we hosted at Biz Babez! A month or so later I got a sweet message from her saying she loved Dazey and if we offered plus sizing she would buy everything. As luck would have it we had just began rolling out plus sizing! Alexa mentioned wanting to shoot at Biz Babez too so I figured this was the perfect opportunity to feature her! She is a model, blogger, and self love advocate who recently started a non-profit around that topic. We’re starting off with 2X in all our tees and are slowing adding new sizes and styles as soon as we are able. Being inclusive is so so important to us and adding more sizes has been a project we have been working on a for long time. As a small business adding additional sizes in all styles is very expensive and has a lot of moving parts, but we believe it’s well worth it!

Alexa is one of those positive and vibrant people that just light up a room! We had so much fun, it felt like we were little girls playing dress up. She brought the most adorable clothing to pair with the tees, so on brand for Dazey! She recorded some behind the scene videos for her YouTube channel and we ended up having an impromptu interview where we basically interviewed each other for her channel and my Instagram Live Story. Those are always the best kind!

On top of doing traditional modeling Alexa does fit modeling for plus brands so she was a huge help in describing fit to me. We get questions about the fit all the time so this was perfect to better help my curvy customers find the right size! Alexa is 5’8 and normally a 2X, but we tried on a variety of styles and sizes based on what we had in samples. In the turtlenecks she’s wearing the M/L sample. We are currently working on adding a L/XL size but luckily with the baby-rib fabric they have a lot of stretch and looked great. Alexa said it could be a little larger, but still felt very comfortable and actually took one home with her :) The Love More tee is shown in size XL, it looked really great semi-fitted with her high waisted pants! It was a much more tailored look.

Lastly we have her wearing the proper 2X in the Speak Up tee! This style looks really great slightly more relaxed with her adorable bell bottom jeans.

I hope this helps anyone on the fence about ordering or questioning what size to get. Always feel free to ask us questions!

Below we have Alexa’s stellar shoot along with full Q & A! 

We got to chatting and you opened up about your childhood and feeling the need to overcompensate. Why did you feel that way?

I felt the need to overcompensate because I was always trying to make up for the fact that I was fat. I felt like if I was the MVP of my basketball team, the president of ASB, the employee of the month, or basically excel in any aspect, it would make up for the fact that I was fat. I felt like I had to more because I wasn’t “good enough”, now I work hard and I have a lot on my plate because I truly want to succeed and help others through my success.

What did you go to college for and why? 

I went to college for an education in helping people, I know it sounds silly, but I always knew I wanted to get a degree in how to better the lives of others. When I went to Cal State Fullerton, I learned about a program called Human Services. Human Services caters to any community in need. In May 2018, I will walk to get my Bachelors of Science in Human Services with a specialty of Mental Health and a Minor in Psychology.

What was the turning point for you to stop self loathing and start self loving? 

The turning point for me is when I decided to become a model. Being in front of the camera was scary, but also fun and so empowering. From that moment, I saw myself as beautiful.

So after college how did you fall into the social media world? You mentioned helping managing other peoples media platforms early on and still now.

I currently work as a social media influencer on YouTube, Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. I also have my own social media management business. I currently manage 3 social media brands and their Digital marketing. I truly have a passion for social media and the opportunity it gives us to have a positive voice in the world. 

What made you want to become a model and influencer and how did you get into that world? 

It kind of just happened! Opportunities kept presenting themselves. This year, I just want to focus on giving social media more attention and building my brand. I truly love my community and the support system I have online.

As an advocate what does self love mean to you? Why is it so important? 

Self love to me means taking my dog out for a walk every day and cuddling with him for an hour straight before I go to bed. Working out every morning, watching the sunrise, traveling….doing what I love. To me, self love is all about making yourself a priority.

You recently started an amazing non-profit @everybodydeserveslove_. What inspired you to start this and what work are you doing to spread awareness?

It all started with a hashtag. I knew I wanted to lead a movement and do good in the world. So I started using #everybodydeserveslove on my own INSTAGRAM and Facebook. I’ve always wanted to help people. From a hashtag in grew into so much more and now we have self love events for adults and youth. Visit the website.

As you're beginning to shift into working full time on your blog and non-profit what are some of the biggest obstacles you've faced from a business perspective?

Being a young entrepreneur has been the best decision I ever made but it comes with a lot of hard work and dedication to your craft. Finding balance is one of the most important things to focus on, but also the most challenging. There’re financial obstacles, emotional obstacles (having the confidence to believe in yourself and your abilities).

What are your plans for the future!? Business wise and personal! 

I want EBDL to be a self sustained self love machine LOL I also want to be educating myself more on emotional growth, career growth, and leveling up as a model and public figure.

What does being a Dazey Lady mean to you?

Being a Dazey Lady means I get to express myself freely. I also love supporting small business, being a small business owner myself. I love knowing that I’m a part of a brand that believes in feminism and women empowerment.

 

Fear Not - Learn how to Combat Fear with Kasey

The is the second installment of our new Self-Care Series! As I've been working with our Biz Babez strategy coach, Kasey, we have been uncovering and tackling a lot of the stresses that come with owning a business and just being a human being in this day and age. Ever since I started Dazey I have neglected practicing self-care and Kasey really helped me realize that. In response, I’ve decided to be very transparent about my self-care journey so others can learn too. We also launched a weekly boss support group at Biz Babez called BIZZY (you can snag your tix HERE) that Kasey, Taryn, and I teach! It's been so cool to hear the perspectives of other women who are going through the same things we are and support one another. One of the biggest topics being brought up in our group has been FEAR. Fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of just about anything. This topic was so fitting as it was something I have been struggling with to the point of not sleeping as of late.

In my session with Kasey I shared with her how I was feeling and she taught me a really cool technique to really pinpoint why I was so afraid and how to stop it. In the name of utter transparency I had Kasey share exactly what happened in our session, down to the specific anxiety I was going through.

Read below to really get into my head and maybe learn something about tackling your own fears! Hope you enjoy and leave a little comment below if you want these posts to keep coming!  

Find the Fear and Slay It

Dani shows her daily outfits in Dazey 

I've had so much fun documenting all my Dazey Everyday looks for you all! These are the things I wear on a daily basis, just non-planned everyday life looks. When I committed to wearing Dazey every single day it made me start to find fun new ways to wear Dazey without it getting repetitive. This month on top of trying to find unique looks everyday I've gone out of my way to find new fun back drops all around LA. Creating constant content can be hard to keep fresh and creative!

I've loved sharing my real life outfits and hope it helps you find some Dazey inspo to elevate your Dazey style! Hope you enjoy it too :) 

 

Get The Look:
Blind Eye Turtleneck
Falling Star Earrings by Julz Junkie

Get The Look:
Won't Be Silenced Raglan
Scarf Tie by I'm With The Band
Mustard Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

Get The Look:
Bold is Beautiful Tee
Scarf Tie by I'm With The Band 

Get The Look:
Normalize Nips Tee 
Burnt Rust Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

Get The Look:
Love More Bell Sleeve 

Get The Look:
Can't Be Tamed Tee

Get The Look:
Head in the Clouds Turtleneck
Burnt Rust Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

Get The Look:
Love More Turtleneck
Burgundy Peach Stacked Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

Get The Look:
Brave Babe Turtleneck
Mustard Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

Get The Look:
Blind Eye Tee
Mustard Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

Get The Look:
Normalize Nips Tee 
Burnt Rust Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

Get The Look:
Love More Tee
Mustard Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

 

Women's day photoshoot and thoughts on COLLABORATION:

Last week was International Women's Day and it was AMAZING. Dazey Ladies were posting left and right and the empowering vibes were everywhere. What a day to be a woman! On that same day I was lucky enough to collaborate on a photoshoot with three amazing blogger babes, @EmilyVartanian, @OfficiallyQuigley, & @FrankVinyl. We had so much fun working together and it just felt like the perfect thing to do on the perfect day. Emily was so inspired she went home and wrote an awesome article on how we can all focus more on collaboration over competition. In the blogger world the competition can be especially fierce, but in reality if they work together and help one another they would all come out ahead. She really captures that in her words from a bloggers perspective, and I think there's a strong takeaway for all of us in it.  

ARTICLE BY GUEST WRITER & BLOGGER @emilyvartanian (see post on her blog too HERE)

International Women’s Day is a day to celebrate ALL females no matter the age, ethnicity, size, shape, color and everything that’s in between! I spent the day hanging out and shooting with @OfficiallyQuigley, @FrankVinyl and @DaniDazey.

It was the perfect, on-the-whim way to spend Women’s Day…with three creative, beautiful, unique and inspiring women! The afternoon inspired this post, which was not a planned one, I might add. I just felt compelled to write my thoughts on the blogging space and how we can all be collaborative female bloggers and not competitive ones.

In this day and age we talk so much about female empowerment, supporting each other, raising each other up. But, are we really putting our 100% into it? I question that A LOT when it comes to the blogging space and that’s just my honest opinion. Sometimes, as much as we post kickass quotes, comment, like and share are we REALLY supporting each other or are we putting on a show for our own selfish reasons? Really think about it, if a blogger was to ask you how you gained 1000 followers in a day would you share your secret? If they were to ask you for the contact to the amazing hotel you stayed at last month would you send them the direct contact email? More often than not the answer is NO…you wouldn’t. And that you guys is NOT the example of female empowerment.

I get that this space is oversaturated and filled to the brim with girls trying to do the same thing. But if we all TRULY support each other, from an honest good-loving place then we all grow together, there is space for everyone! Below are some simple things I thought we could all do to collaborate rather than compete with each other.

1. Connect on a deeper level – We are all so consumed with getting the perfect shot, having the most dreamy feed, growing our numbers that we forget…OH HEY WE ARE ALL REAL PEOPLE. We are not our Instagram accounts, we are not the number attached to our handles, we are not our engagement rate. I think the first step in NOT being competitive is pretending that number does not exist. Erase it! At the end of the day we are all human. Connect on a deeper level with the blogger you are sitting next to at an awkward brunch, don’t ignore her because “UGH she only has 50k followers.” Build connections and foster those connections because they will last longer than the lifetime of your last Instagram post. Trust me.
2. Share the 411 – This is a tricky one because personally I have been in both situations. A. When I was asking for information and B. When I was giving information. I get that too much info may not be the most ideal scenario but if a blogger who you consider a friend asks for something then share it! Don’t you want to see your friends succeed too? Hoarding your growth tactics, editing secrets and things of that nature is not the definition of, “Women supporting women.”
3. Create Together – Once you have solid blogger friendships, you know, the girls you would invite to your wedding, baby shower and early retirement party, create cool shit together! I left yesterday’s shoot feeling so inspired and empowered. People love to see girl gangs…there’s a reason the Spice Girls were so popular. Girl power does exist, it’s out there in the universe with all it’s powerful energy!
4. Support via Stories and Tags – This is a new trend on Instagram and I have a love-hate relationship with it because I was doing it long before it became a “thing.” But, the main point of it is awesome and if you do it from an honest place then YAY! Share accounts you truly love and are inspired by. Share smaller accounts that you want to support because you are a nice person.
5. Give Credit where Credit is Due – Things are getting foggy on Instagram and a lot of girls' content is starting to look the same, mine included! Things can get weird, competitive and nasty if people feel you are “stealing” ideas, edits etc. So, if you are inspired by a specific photo then give credit to the person who inspired your shot! If you are using someone’s preset then tell your followers that. Giving credit to those who inspire you makes them feel good inside and doesn’t make you a photo stealing copycat! It’s a more positive collaborative approach rather than a negative one.

 

 

Mama Cax - Model, blogger, world traveler, public speaker, advocate, and amputee

I discovered Mama Cax through a podcast. She talked about all the amazing things she was doing despite her disability. Of course I had to stalk her Insta right after and was blown away by both her stunning feed, amazing style, and those drop dead gorgeous looks! She had grown quite a large following of over 135k people who just adore all she's doing in the fashion and female empowerment world. This gal survived cancer at a young age and lost one of her legs but she did not let that stop her from fulfilling her dreams. Mama Cax is a shining example of strength, elegance, and bold self expression. Through all this she has become a well known spokesperson for the intersectional feminist movement.

It was a long shot, but I figured I should reach out to see if she was interested in being featured on our Boss Blog. As luck would have it she was in LA speaking at Create & Cultivate, the ultimate girl boss conference! I was honored she took the time out of her busy schedule to stop by Biz Babez and shoot with me. We made the arrangements to shoot about a month in advance and I was anxiously awaiting for the day to arrive. I wanted to do something more special than our usual shoots at the office so that morning I ran to the fashion district and got some amazing vintage fabric for a backdrop. She arrived with a bag of awesome clothing and accessories, including this epic wig. She said, "I want to make this a fun and playful shoot!" I couldn't have agreed more! Mama Cax was such a cool and down to earth girl and we had an awesome time shooting and chatting. It's always the best when you meet a role model who is so nice and relatable.

Scroll around below to see the full shoot and read our interview! Mama Cax has some powerful words to share. 

Mama Cax! First off why don’t you tell us a little about yourself. Where are you originally from and what's your full name? 

I was born in Brooklyn but originally from Haiti. I spent most of my childhood in Haiti before moving back to New York in 2004. Mama Cax is my blogging name but most people call me Cax. I hold a B.A and M.A in International Studies but currently I'm a full time blogger and model.

You’re a lady of many talents and pursuits! How would you describe all you do?

It doesn’t quite fit in one box I guess. Aside from blogging and modeling, I often get to speak at events and conferences and the topic of discussion varies from intersectional feminism, body image and sex positivity. Ultimately I like to bring the perspective of a disabled woman to these platforms as we are often not present in those discussions.

I love hearing how you went from working in a government office to being a fashion icon and jet setting around the world. What prompted this change?What does fashion and self expression mean to you?

Totally unplanned. I always thought I’d end up working at a non profit organization. While I worked at the mayor’s office, outside of my 9-5 unbeknownst to me at the time, I was creating and nurturing a brand. From curating my Instagram feed to blogging about travels and body image, it all started paying off when I realized I could also get paid to create content for some of my favorite brands. I took a year off to get my masters, with the hope of getting a better paying position. Life doesn’t always workout the way we plan and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. After getting the opportunity to model on a Wet n Wild campaign it made sense to get represented by a modeling agency. Although me being where I am is completely by chance I also can’t deny the work I’ve put into it. People tend to organically label me and those labels often come with negative assumption. Fashion is one of many ways I let the world know who I am; risk taker, confident and creative.

Where are some of the places you have traveled? Which place is your absolute favorite and why?

I’ve studied in Europe and embarked on a solo backpacking trip in south east Asia. I’ve probably been to 35 countries across the Americas, Europe, Africa and Asia. I’ve created great memories in every single one. If I absolutely have to pick one I’d say Iceland in the spring; Dreamy landscape, the weather is perfect and I love the 22 hour daylight. If I could pick more than one, I would have to add Haiti (because it will always be home), Ivory Coast, South Africa and Thailand. These countries have great food and vibrant cultures from the clothing to the music.

How would you say having survived cancer and an amputation at age 16 has shaped you as a person?

I think surviving cancer has pushed me to aim to enjoy the little victories in life and try to live it to the fullest. I always say that if I had a do-over there’s very little that I would change. These experiences have made me the person I am today, they have definitely made me appreciate my ability to adapt.

You have become a huge advocate in the body positivity movement. Why is this movement vital not only to you but all women?

I was unaware of the movement until I joined Instagram. For the longest time it had been a movement to get plus size women (mostly white) to accept their bodies but I’ve slowly watched it include other women (thankfully). I often use the term self-love, but to me it is meant to celebrate and elevate bodies that have been marginalized for so long; plus size, hairy, queer, trans, diverse skin shade and disabled. I think self perception has a strong link with self esteem therefore it affects so many aspects of our lives. 

You have not let your disability get in the way of a very able, full, and colorful life. What does the word “disability” mean to you? After posting on our Insta-stories we had a few girls reach out who also wear prosthetics and are struggling to embrace and show them off the way you do. What’s one important message you have for these girls?

Disability is essentially an impairment, often times it affects us because our environment is not designed with us in mind. Having a disability has allowed me to find a new community and look at our world through a different lens, one that constantly pushes me to think of ways of making opportunities and spaces accessible. As an amputee, there isn’t one way of embracing yourself, for me it meant showing off my prosthetic leg but I understand that our society is not very accepting. To other girls who wear prosthetics I say do what makes you feel comfortable and work on loving yourself at your own pace. 

As a blogger you’ve had a large following on Instagram for some time now, and are now signed with an agency as a model. You travel the world speaking at conferences like Create & Cultivate. What has all this attention and fame been like for you?! The good and bad.

Yes I’m currently represented by JAG Models. I’m always amazed by the messages from all over the world, especially from people whose stories are similar to mine. And always honored to get invited to speak at conferences and events, rubbing elbows with women who have inspired and continue to inspire me. From the likes and comments it’s easy to see the positive but it can be frightening and lonely. Once you’re considered a public figure, your picture can be shared on any platform where the comment sections are not always positive. Often times people equate popularity with “doing well” or “she’s made it” but my life is still very much like a roller coaster; I have great days, depressing ones, worries about not budgeting well and an almost non existent dating life. 

What’s in store for the future of Mama Caxx?! Tell us all your wildest dreams :)

I’lll be on yet another exciting panel at South by South West (so follow me on Instagram for a chance to see me talk). I shot an amazing campaign for Tommy Hilfiger and that will be out in the Spring. Since I never imagined I’d be a full time blogger, model and speaker, It’s hard to allow myself to dream but some things on my list are:

 - to help provide prosthetic limbs to children

- be featured in Vogue print magazine(I like the tangible stuff)

- and finally setting up a fund to provide scholarships for students with disabilities to study abroad

What does being a Dazey Lady mean to you?

Being confident, pursuing my dream, helping my community but most importantly encourage other young women to do the same.

 

Dazey Digi is Back after a few month hiatus! 

We are bringing back Dazey Digital this month with three of our favorite new designs from the Speak Up Speak Out Collection! Dazey Digital is the perfect way to bring your Dazey with you every day of the week. Below you'll find this months digital release with both desktop and mobile formatting. Just save right to your phone or drag and drop to your desktop. let us know in the comments which graphics you'd like to see go digital next month! 

Dazey Your Desktop "Courage Has No Gender" 

DOWNLOAD DESKTOP VERSION USING IMAGE SHOWN BELOW

DOWNLOAD THE MOBILE VERSION HERE

Dazey Your Desktop "Speak Up"

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DOWNLOAD THE MOBILE VERSION BELOW

Dazey Your Desktop "Blind Eye"

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DOWNLOAD THE MOBILE VERSION BELOW

 

Dani Show's her Daily Outfits in Dazey 

 

Here it is, the second installation of our Dazey Everyday posts! As you know I wear a Dazey tee every single day and show the outfits on Instagram stories. I've since decided to document my outfits here on the blog to provide some outfit inspo for all you fellow graphic tee gals! These are my real life looks shot that day wherever I may be, whether it's at Biz Babez, my house, around town, or even in Palm Springs for the day. In a world on pre-planned outfits and photo shoots it's so fun to share a real life outfit and real life setting. Practical looks to wear and add spunk in your everyday life!

If any of you Dazey ladies collect enough tees to join me don't forget to use the hashtag #DAZEYEVERYDAY :) 

Get The Look:
Courage Tee
Metallic Rust Headband by I'm With The Band

Get The Look:
Bold is Beautiful Bell Sleeve
Burnt Rust Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

 

Get The Look:
Love More Tee in White
Falling Star Earrings & Maya Kimono

 

Get The Look:
Bold is Beautiful Tee
Burnt Rust Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado
Velvet Sienna Headband by I'm With The Band

Get The Look:
Speak Up Raglan

Get The Look:
Courage Turtleneck
Burnt Rust Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado
Velvet Sunbeam Pinafore

Get The Look:
Blind Eye
Mustard Yellow Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

Get The Look:
Strong As Hell Tee
Green Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

Get The Look:
Brave Babe Turtleneck
Black Pom Earrings by The Little Avocado

 

THE SPEAK UP SPEAK OUT COLLECTION IS LIVE

As you know each of our collections center around a theme having to do with female empowerment. This specific one is powerful and couldn’t be more relevant. The Speak Up Speak Out collection was designed to give women a voice in a society that often tries to silence them. Whether it’s empowering women to speak up for themselves or to speak out against sexual violence. Time’s up, it’s our turn to talk! 

SPEAK UP:

Every woman has experienced a situation where they were expected to act or speak a certain way because of their gender. We are told to be quiet and keep our thoughts to ourselves. Smile often and always look pretty. Wear this, don’t wear that. Be thin, but have curves in the right places. Find a husband and have kids, but not too early or too late. Be successful, but not too successful. We are done being told how to act and what to say. We won’t be held back any longer. Women are brave. Women are bold. Women are brilliant. We have a valid voice, real opinions, and are ready to change the world. 

SPEAK OUT:

For too long women have been labeled 'the weaker sex' and been taken advantage of. The statistics of sexual assault in the US are staggering. Right now there is a movement to shed light on the truth with incredible campaigns like #metoo and #timesup. This collection was partly inspired by giving power back to the victims of assault. We are celebrating the silence breakers. The courageous women coming forward to end the abuse. We stand by them and want to amplify their voices!

THE SHOOT:

As we were looking for a location for our big lookbook shoot we got an interesting email. One of my best friends Alden and I got invited to Modernism Week in Palm Springs. I’m a huge fan of this era, in both interiors and a graphic design perspective. Alden also happens to be an amazing full time model who I love to shoot for Dazey. I reached back out to Modernism Week to see if they would let us shoot in one of their epic locations. I was ecstatic when they said we could some the day before the event and create some content! The house that the party was to be held at was recently renovated and no photos were to be found until the big reveal the day of. So we really went into this with no idea of what to expect, a sort of guerrilla lookbook shoot! I was both exited and anxious. When we got to the location there appeared to be quite a bit going on with final touches on the renovation and we got a tad nervous. As you know Dazey is a very bright, colorful, and funky brand. While the Hidden Frey was no doubt gorgeous, it was quite clean and white looking and less quirky. We did a few looks there and began talking to Jackie and DeeAnne, the owners. They also happened to own another amazing property they were showing for modernism week! The called it The Moroccan and with a name like that we knew it has to be amazing. They were so kind to let us finish the shoot over there! We initially were going to shoot in the front and backyard area but when we walked into the house our jaws dropped. It was a funky bright little piece of mid-century modern paradise! With a little convincing (and sort of just going ahead and doing it haha) we got to shoot inside this mind blowing property. Jackie and DeeAnee are wives and the owners of Thomboy Properties, one of the best modern renovation companies in Palm Springs and these ladies KILL THE GAME in an industry not often ran by females! Everything about their story is unique, unexpected, and fabulous. So excited to have partnered with rad Dazey Ladies as always on this shoot!

 We took a chance and ended up with a shoot just as fun, colorful, and California as Dazey. We like to shine a light on serious subject matters, but also add that dose of positivity and lightness. I have been handing the camera over to Phillip a little more lately and stepping into a role as the face of the brand. This is the first lookbook shoot I’ve ever modeled in and to be honest it feels a little funny. Especially alongside an amazing successful model like Alden. I also just want to say I know were two blonde white girls and that doesn’t work towards my goal of showing more representation as a brand. I didn’t want to roll into these special locations with a large crew and Alden and I were both invited to come and shoot. We will certainly work had to get some more diverse shoots in the new stuff with all types of wonderful women! Despite all that I’m so happy with how everything turned out and SO EXCITED to finally share the SPEAK UP SPEAK OUT collection! Hope you enjoy :)

Models:
@AldenSteimle 
@DaniDazey

Locations:
@Modernism_Week
@ThomboyProperties

Photographer:
@PhillipButler

 

 

 

 

 

Strategy & self-care with Kasey Drier 

Amidst the craziness of running a business a lot of things can fall by the wayside. Self care is usually the first thing to go along with your sanity haha. This year started off strong for Dazey which is amazing, but took a toll on me in other ways. I had a to-do list miles long and didn’t know how to handle it. I started to feel major anxiety but kept brushing it aside to get stuff done. I was starting to feel the beginnings signs of burn out, something had to be done.

Luckily Kasey Drier came to the rescue! Kasey was our very first Biz Babez member and became so involved in the community straight from the beginning. Taryn, my Biz Babez business partner, and I quickly began to rely on her and made her our Community Manager. She’s part genius, part camp counselor, and a F/T self help coach for boss babes. Kasey was literally made to do this job. She’s helped shape Biz Babez so much that Taryn and I basically consider her our third founder! We are now working with her on a new Biz Babez project, Bizzy, and she’s become an irreplaceable member of our team. 

Kasey graduated from Stanford with a degree in engineering and worked doing project management for a fortune 500 company for many years. She herself went through burnout and realized while she was very accomplished, she wasn’t happy. She dramatically changed her life and is now a self care and strategy coach for female entrepreneurs!

Kasey has been working with Taryn and a few of our members on coaching and it has been helping so much. I thought it was so cool, but had been skeptical it would do anything for me. I was still deeply in denial that I needed any help until I word vomited all over her when we were getting coffee one day. The advice she had was incredible. She takes a very practical engineering approach mixed with some new age practices. It’s great for me as someone who isn’t super 'woo woo' but could use a little more meditation in my life! The very next day I told her I needed to actually hire her to help me manage and plan for Dazey as well as myself! We had two coaching sessions, one with just her and I and then one with my little team. I told her all I had on my mind and on my plate and she was able to write it all down and make a game plan on what my priorities are and how to get them done. Sometimes as a self employed person you really just need someone else to tell you what to do for a change! With her experience managing large teams for big companies she’s well versed in business planning. On the other end of the spectrum is learning when to relax and take time out for yourself. She taught me some great ways to prioritize my self care and make a lifestyle that’s sustainable over time. They were transformational and such a huge help to my business, schedule, and sanity. 

As you know Dazey is all about transparency so I decided to share with you guys exactly what Kasey and I worked on and talked about during our coaching session. I hope by sharing this it can give you guys some insight on how you can better prioritize self care and manage your to-do list! We hope to do these “Private Goes Public” sessions on a monthly basis as I learn with Kasey! Also everyone in the world should hire her haha ;)

Below read Kasey’s notes and stories from our sessions along with some photos of her around Biz Babez. We also got some group shots of the 'Head Babez' I thought would be fun to throw in! 

Kasey tells ALL:

Ladies, I LOVE Dazey LA! I love what it stands for; I love how it started; I love how it’s operated, and I love its founder. I found Dani, or rather Dani found me, through one of her famous Insta-story advertisements. She smiled at me through her big glasses and said something along the lines of, “You’ve just been targeted for this ad, because you believe in female empowerment and I think you’ll like my brand, Dazey LA.”

I followed her account, and it’s been love ever since. About two months later I became the very first member of Biz Babez, a Pinterest perfect workspace for girls who gram and female business owners who want to work for themselves, but not by themselves. I’ve become so obsessed with Biz Babez that I’m now the Community Manager and Strategy Babe. (BTW, we have BIG plans for Biz Babez, more details coming soon!).

One day Dani and I went out to a casual coffee at Verve, right around the corner of Biz Babez. As fate would have it, it turned into a mini-coaching session. Which makes sense, because I’m a self-care coach and business strategist who helps boss influencers, like Dani, set outrageously audacious goals; meet them, and IMPROVE their well-being along the way. One thing led to another, and the next thing we knew, we were working together to help Dani feel more energized; carve out more room in her day to do the creative and content work that she breathes for, and set DazeyLA and Biz Babez on awesome growth trajectories.

 Sounds impossible, huh?

I promise you; it’s not. But, I understand why it seems that way. We’re great, especially in the U.S., at selling the idea that excellent business achievement has to come at the cost of sleep, sanity, health, and relationships. The funny thing is, and the thing that I help my boss clients reframe, we often have to narrow our focus; say no more often, and do less to make a big impact and big bucks! And that’s precisely what I’m helping Dani and Dazey do. It’s a privilege, and I count it as a blessing every night before I go to bed. (For real: every night I say 108 things I’m grateful for on my mala beads and Dani and Dazey are always two of them!).

As a coach, it’s a good practice to keep my client's information and sessions private. But one of the things that makes Dani so authentic, accessible, and lovable is her vulnerability. So when she asked me to write a guest blog about our work together, I felt comfortable lifting the veil for a very rare and candid look at what it’s like to prioritize your self-care while building two empires. At Dani’s request and with her permission, here are some of her self-care challenges and highlights.

First, Dani is genuinely one of the most confident people I have ever met. It is contagious and inspiring. She has an eye for design, detail, and marketing and the sister know it!

She is also a perfectionist. This personality trait has served her very well and turned her side hustle into the solid foundation of an empire. But, it also makes it difficult to let go of low-priority tasks that someone else can and should do.

That’s why the first thing we did together was discussed her goals for DazeyLA, Biz Babez, and her personal goals AND looked at her To-Do List. It’s a lot easier to let go of control, delegate To-Dos, and just straight up say “NO!” when we look at our To-Do List in the context of our audacious, amazing goals.

Dani and Dazey have HUGE goals. And I have no doubt they will crush them. Together, we prioritized the To-Dos and focused areas most likely to help her successfully achieve these goals. We reduced her To-Do List by about 25% through that exercise alone. But, there were still more To-Do’s than any one person, even someone as badass as Dani could accomplish in one year. So we started delegating.

Dani and Dazey thrive when Dani is spending her time being creative, big picture, and activating her Dazey Ladies across the globe. That made it pretty easy to figure out what needed to stay on her To-Do List vs. what things were ripe for delegation.

Once we got a sense for what we needed to get off Dani’s plate and onto someone else’s, we met with her DazeyLA teammates. One of the many things Dani has done well over the last year is to build a kick butt team. When we took a collective look at the things that still needed to get done and needed a new, non-Dani owner, as magic would have it, the activities aligned with strengths and growth opportunities for her team. Not only did Dani shrink her To-Do List, but she also increased her employee engagement. That is what GREAT LEADERS DO! Way to go, Dani!

Okay, so we slayed her To-Do List, what next? We added a new To-Do to the top of her list: sleep! Luckily, Dani is a pro-sleeper, so we didn’t have to make any drastic changes to her sleep routine.

However, despite getting enough sleep, and loving what she does, she didn’t always feel a spring in her step when it came to waking up. There’s nothing wrong with not being a morning person. But Dani wanted to feel more energized and excited about getting up in the morning. She admitted that she dreaded getting ready for her Dazey Everyday Instagram Stories. She also felt guilty that even though she loves Biz Babez, sometimes she still just wanted to work in a local coffee shop.

You wouldn’t believe the number of influencers and goal-crushers I work with who love being ready in the morning but don’t love the act of getting ready! Dani is in good company. Fortunately or unfortunately, getting dressed; doing her hair, and putting on makeup is part of Dani’s job. So rather than resenting that, I encouraged Dani to start owning that. I suggested that she think of getting ready as “clocking-in” it's part of her job….she’s getting paid for it! It didn’t reduce the amount of time she needed to spend on the activity. But it made her feel better about it, which is more than half the battle!

Finally, we addressed the guilt. I wish I got a dime every time one of my sweet clients said, “I feel guilty,” “I have to,” “I should,” or “I need to.” I’d be a wealthy woman if I did. Guilt is the nastiest energy vampire in the human feelings spectrum. It makes us feel bad and overcompensate for the silliest, most ridiculous things. Don’t get me wrong; I’m as guilty of experiencing unnecessarily guilty as the next boss babe. I am consistently working on it with my coach and therapist. That's why I am so passionate about helping my clients banish it!

It turns out Dani is allowed to love working quietly at a coffee shop and at the bustling Biz Babez. In fact, she prefers working at a coffee shop in the morning to help her clear her head and start her morning on a creative note. Then she loves getting an energy injection at Biz Babez in the afternoon when it’s time to collaborate and create content. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. She doesn’t have to be at Biz Babez all day, every day. It doesn’t mean she loves the community or the concept any less. The relief she felt when we determined this was instantaneous and very palpable. It was such a fun and rewarding coaching moment for me!

I’m so proud of and inspired by Dani. She is such a courageous woman. She is living her brand and carving a name for herself. It is a treat to be a part of her journey.

There are so many other things that Dani and I are working on together. This will not be my last post. But, it is the end of this one.

In the meantime, if you’d like to work on your self-care, here are three options:

1. Follow me on Instagram for actionable tips and tricks @kaseydreier
2. Take a deep breath
3. Sign-up for free 30-minute self-care check-in with me (offering specially for friends of Dazey!) 

Until the next blog, be well lovelies!

Love, Kasey Dreier

Valentines Day Special Release and Photoshoot!

We are all about spreading the LOVE here at Dazey and clearly you guys are too! Our OG mustard Love More tee is our all-time best seller (and most knocked off) by far! After many requests we’ve decided to offer more styles in this graphic. An amazing mustard bell sleeve, turtleneck, and basic white tee!

We were originally planning on releasing these exciting new styles alongside our new collection but decided doing a special Valentines Day launch couldn't be more appropriate! Today only we’re doing 15% off ALL love more products including our OG tee dress and mustard tee! Use the code “lovemore” at checkout. It’s the perfect time to pick up a tee whether you're spending time with someone special, doing Galentines, or celebrating self love. TREAT YO SELF LADIES!!!

Below we have a fun shoot with @danidazey and her boyfriend @phillipbutler! We originally shot the mustard love more tee in today's post with @merakinarrative & @larkcakeshop but had to add on all the new styles! We kept the fun going this past weekend doing a @bizbabez shoot for this special launch :)

Photos in mustard love more tee: @merakinarrative

Photos in other styles: @phillipbutler/@vegetaryn/@kaseydrier (team effort LOL!)